Approaching Women - Mistakes To Avoid

Posted on May 16, 2008

Let’s see what NOT to say to girls upon approaching them. There are two main pickup centers: clubs and everywhere else. I’ve put clubs in a separate category, because they’re so different from the rest. It’s a whole art in itself. So we will talk about clubs for now. If you learn to pick up girls there, other venues will be a piece of cake.

Let’s examine pickup lines first. Have you ever tried using them? I’m sure most guys have at least once or twice. Or more. “Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?” Sounds cheesy, doesn’t it? Pickup lines are L-A-M-E. She has heard them many times before. By using them, you become just another loser. Even if she likes you initially, you can easily ruin your chances with a lame line. So forget about pickup lines for good.

Girls in clubs expect to be hit on by guys. That’s the main reason they go: to boost their egos or to have some fun with guys. When you approach a girl in a club, she will know what you’re up to. From the moment you open your mouth to speak, she will be sure that you’re at least a little interested in her. Otherwise, why would you talk to her in the first place? This puts her in a position of power. She is the selector now; she can decide to turn her back on you at any time.

When she sees you approaching, her first thought will probably be: “Here’s another guy who wants something from me.” Her second thought will be either: “He seems different; let’s give him a chance.” or “No, not another loser. Where are they coming from? No more losers for tonight. Now get away from me!” To increase your chances, you have to separate yourself from the crowd. You have to be different from the rest, to give her a reason she should talk to you.

There are many schemes that most guys follow. She knows all of these. At least three guys will approach her with: “Hi! I’m John. You come here often?” while she’s dancing. There’s something even better: buying her a drink. Forget about it - NOW. I don’t know who came up with such a stupid idea, but he must have been out of his mind. She gets five drinks a night and refuses another five. Hot girls spend ZERO, yes, ZERO money on drinks at clubs. It’s because there’s always a loser who buys them for her. She doesn’t even have to move a finger and has two drinks in front of her.

Why would you invite her for a drink anyway? Do you know her? No. She is a total stranger to you. Do you invite your best buddies for a drink? Yes. Do you invite strangers? No. So treat her like one. Buying a drink is equivalent to approaching her with the following: “I want to have sex with you, and I think that by buying you a few dollars’ worth of drinks, I’ll have a better chance of succeeding! So can we leave now?” Would you fuck a guy like that if you were a girl? Not likely! So forget about it. Even if she asks you to buy her a drink, firmly say, “No.” It’s one of her tests to decide how Manly you are. If you comply, she will lose interest in you immediately.

The first mistake to avoid is hiding your intentions. Trying to approach her with an excuse or by talking about the latest swimsuit fashions is just a waste of time. She might be entertained by it and, since your presence is nonthreatening to her, you might think that your pickup is going well. Then suddenly, you lose her. It’s normal: She’s not stupid, and she knows what you wanted from the beginning. The average club girl is approached 10 to 20 times a night by a large variety of guys, and she has much more experience in handling them than you do in handling girls. Don’t think you can fool her into believing you’re there for an hour just to have fun. A real Man will never hide what he wants and try to trick her - it just lowers your value in her eyes.

The other mistake you can make is being too direct and obvious. “Want to have sex?” is not the best way to impress a girl. Even if she’s a more experienced woman, she still has some of her little princess fantasies. If you start off by making your intentions to have sex with her clear, she will brush you off in a minute. We are wired differently. Men will jump straight into sex, while women need a long, exciting foreplay to get ready for action.

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